Emotional Intelligence & Self-Mastery

Signals. Thoughts. Habits. Choices.

Emotions Are Signals

Fear Signals a limitation or something important being at stake
Anger A boundary has been crossed and something needs to be worked on
Sadness Something valuable was lost
Joy You're aligned with what matters
Don't fight emotions. Listen to what they're telling you, then act accordingly.

The Pause

Between stimulus and response, there is space. In that space, let emotions move through you rather than fighting them. Resistance is what makes them stick.

You Become What You Think

If you feed your mind trash, you're going to feel like trash. You're running old survival software that was useful once but no longer serves you. Thoughts create feelings. Change the thought, the feeling follows.

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Stay in the Present Moment

Anxiety often means you're caught in the future. Depression often means you're caught in the past - though both can trap you in either direction.

Ruminating on the future breeds worry. Ruminating on the past breeds regret. The present is where you have agency.

Your Past Is a Chapter, Not Your Whole Story

Learn from it, but don't live there.

Work as Self-Expression

You get better results

Your best performances come when work is a full expression of you.

You love the activity

The work becomes a natural display of your personality.

You feel alive

Because in doing the craft, you feel alive.

Motivation Won't Change Your Life, But Habits Will

When you change your habits, everything shifts.

habit — accumulated patterns

Control Is a Total Illusion

The only real power you have is you and your choices.

choice — moment-to-moment agency